I have an example of miscommunication that just happened today with my fiance. I asked Jason if he wanted to go to lunch today. His response was "we have to the rest of our life to go to lunch together" he then noticed my facial expression (which I immediately was irritated) and said "well of course I want to go to lunch with you today, and I was just kidding." He said he just wanted to see my reaction. When I heard him say this I thought to myself what a jerk and no longer wanted to go to lunch with him. If I would've just walked away we probably wouldn't have gone to lunch because I instantly assumed that he just didn't want to go, but since he saw the disappointment on my face he knew that he made a mistake and changed his tone and his answer. He really did want to go but for some reason couldn't just say "yes, let's go!"
I think things like this just happen because we both respond differently to things and his joking doesn't always seem like joking to me and vice versa.
Great examples.
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