Blog #10-"Complimenting"

I feel as though I use compliments all the time. Today for example, my fiance and I had our friends from out of town over for dinner. After they entered our home and we said hello, I immediately notice that her hair was shorter and the color was different and complimented on it. Then our conversation turned into talking about what is different with our body/appearances. I probably use compliments multiple times a day with different people. I think I do this because I do like to make people feel good and that in turn makes me feel good. The one thing I found to be really interesting is how everyone uses the same types of compliments.

Blog #9-"Women's place in Everyday Talk"

After reading this chapter I don't feel as though the similarities between a male/female conversation and also between a parent/child conversation is a negative "thing".

I think, if anything, that it is interesting to read the conversation, in the book, with the overlapping words from the males while speaking to females or when they interrupt the conversations because its a way of showing their dominance. I feel as though men think that they have to have the last say in something in order to be heard. I also think that when a women is having a conversation with a man and he interrupts her, she feels as though he is not listening to her.

Blog #8- Ethnic Style in Male-female Converstation

Miscommunication is soo common, especially in relationships.

I have an example of miscommunication that just happened today with my fiance. I asked Jason if he wanted to go to lunch today. His response was "we have to the rest of our life to go to lunch together" he then noticed my facial expression (which I immediately was irritated) and said "well of course I want to go to lunch with you today, and I was just kidding." He said he just wanted to see my reaction. When I heard him say this I thought to myself what a jerk and no longer wanted to go to lunch with him. If I would've just walked away we probably wouldn't have gone to lunch because I instantly assumed that he just didn't want to go, but since he saw the disappointment on my face he knew that he made a mistake and changed his tone and his answer. He really did want to go but for some reason couldn't just say "yes, let's go!"

I think things like this just happen because we both respond differently to things and his joking doesn't always seem like joking to me and vice versa.

Blog #7-Fishman-Interaction: The work women do

As I was reading this article I starting reflecting on how much more I talk compared to my fiance. I find this so fascinating that I am not the only women who asks questions, tries to start conversations, and always listens when my fiance is talking. I guess I am somewhat aware of this, but reading the information makes it much more alive to me. I also find it interesting that even though the women in a relationship does majority of the work make "conversation" they still do not hold the power. This just goes to show the major differences between males and females and how they communicate.